Do I really need physical strength for Lovemaking?

You don’t need physical strength for lovemaking, and let me be really clear here: Lovemaking is possible for anybody, even with very limited physical strength. You can make love whether you are able-bodied or disabled, and even if you are paralysed from the neck down, and in a wheelchair. Particularly in older age, there can be hilarious moment in lovemaking when you both discover that you have the same knee problem, and need to adjust positions accordingly, or find comfortable ways of lovemaking that suit both partners. This topic is for another blogpost, though!

Here I would like to focus on the role of physical strength in a penetration position, for able-bodied people, of one partner on top of the other one, and facing each other. In a heterosexual context, this could be the missionary or related positions. Physical Strength plays a role for Lovemaking in these positions, both for the partner on top, and for the one below.

Physical Strength, and Life

Generally, I would recommend to work on keeping up or increasing physical strength regularly, if you possibly can, for all genders. There are several reasons for that, one of them being the benefit of wellbeing after the right kind and amount of a physical workout. Working out should make us feel strong and healthy, ideally. The older we get, the more difficult it becomes to build muscles, and that’s particularly true for postmenopausal women. Muscles keep our joints safer, and ensure we are adaptable in adversarial physical events. In very old age, physical strength makes it less likely that we fall, or get injured when we do, and are able to get up after a fall without assistance. Physical strength also makes being alive more fun, because we can be active in a variety of ways and discover our optimal vitality level, and that’s also true for lovemaking.

The Role of Physical Strength for Lovemaking in Penetration

In a missionary position, the partner on top will sometimes be in a sort of half plank, which is holding themselves up by their arms, and supporting themselves with their knees. In order to make this easier, the partner underneath can place their pelvis on a wedge or pillow, which can also make a surprising difference to the fit (for women/vagina owners). Women will often only start to truly appreciate the physical strength this position requires when experimenting with pegging. Pegging however doesn’t require staying hard at the same time! Penetration positions of this kind also require mobility in the lower spine and pelvis for both partners. For the underneath partner to truly and actively enjoy this position, they will need to move. Core strength is required to tuck the pelvis under, or to c-curve the entire spine. Underneath partners can also hold on to their partners pelvis, and pull it closer.

Strength and the Ability to Move your Pelvis

Pelvic floor strength makes for strong erections and strong orgasms. The pelvic floor is also the pump of life energy itself, and plays a role in many movement sequences in daily life. Movements in sexual penetration also requires thigh and glute strength and of course core muscles. You may notice that you move more. and with more confidence, when being stronger, and may discover movements that were hitherto not possible. This makes for a range and variety in lovemaking, and also creativity in movement. Is there an angle of penetration that you haven’t explored yet in all its sensations? Physical strength makes it possible to go right there! The role of physical strength for lovemaking also lies in stamina – you will be able to be active for longer. Longer lovemaking sessions can be great fun, and sweaty sexercise in themselves! I advise both able-bodied and disabled couples on positions in lovemaking – drop me an e-mail.

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