Exploring the Magic of ‘Becoming Real’
What does it mean to become real? This question, so beautifully posed in The Velveteen Rabbit, captures a universal longing—to be deeply seen, loved, and authentically ourselves. Let me tell you a story to set the scene.
Imagine a little boy curled up next to his father on a warm summer evening, the light fading softly as crickets hum in the distance. With wide eyes, the boy asks, “What does it mean to become real?”
This simple yet profound question invites us to reflect on our own journeys. Let’s explore what it truly means to ‘become real.’
Real Isn’t About What You Have
So, what does it mean to become real? It’s not tied to ticking off life’s milestones – getting a job, buying a house, or achieving financial success. Those are just markers along the way, not the essence of the journey.
At its core, becoming real is about transformation through love. It’s what happens when you care so deeply for someone (or something) that it reshapes you, softens your edges, and invites you to grow in ways you never imagined.
Love, in all its forms, asks us to be vulnerable. To let go of old patterns, embrace change, and sometimes put someone else’s needs ahead of our own. In doing so, we become more ourselves—real, raw, and beautifully authentic.
The Duality of Transformation
“But does it hurt?” the boy asks, his voice tinged with both curiosity and concern.
“Yes,” his father replies gently. “Sometimes it hurts a lot. But it can also bring incredible joy.”
This is the paradox of what it means to become real: the interplay of pain and joy. Growth often requires shedding old layers – layers we may have clung to for security. But as we let go, we make space for something new, something richer and more meaningful.
Becoming Real is a Journey
Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual, sometimes messy process, filled with moments of doubt, fear, and exhilaration. To answer the question “What does it mean to become real?”, we must be open – open to change, open to love, and open to discovering parts of ourselves we’ve never fully explored.
Yes, this can feel unsettling. The certainty of what you once believed may begin to shift, leaving you wondering who you are without it. But this is where the magic lies—in the courage to step forward even when the path isn’t clear.
The Beauty of Being Real
When you become real, you radiate authenticity. Your imperfections become part of your beauty, telling a story of resilience and self-discovery. Not everyone will understand or appreciate this depth, and that’s okay. Realness isn’t about being perfect for everyone; it’s about being true to yourself.
Your Journey to Realness
Like the boy in the story, you may feel both excitement and fear as you step into the unknown. You might wish to bypass the discomfort, to skip straight to the joy. But every step—the challenges, the breakthroughs, the quiet realizations – shapes your journey.
What does it mean to become real? It means living with authenticity, connecting deeply with yourself and others, and embracing the love and transformation that life offers.
Curious About Embodiment and Sexuality?
The concept of becoming real doesn’t stop at your emotional growth – it extends to your relationship with your body and your sense of self, including your sexuality.
Embodiment is the practice of being fully present in your body, acknowledging your feelings, and understanding your desires in a compassionate, non-judgmental way. Your sexuality, as an integral part of who you are, can be a powerful area for self-discovery and transformation.
If you’re ready to explore this journey further, I’m here to guide you. Together, we can create a safe, supportive space for you to reconnect with your body, understand your desires, and embrace your authenticity.
Let’s navigate this path together. Reach out today to learn more about how we can work together to help you become more real—more you.
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