3 types of orgasms without genital touch
I often meet clients—especially women—who aren’t quite sure if they’ve experienced an orgasm, particularly a non-genital orgasm.
‘Nobody cares about women’s pleasure’
Exploring Female Pleasure and Reclaiming Desire: Insights from Good Luck to You, Leo GrandeEmma Thompson’s brilliant film Good Luck to You, Leo Grande isn’t just a delight to watch—it’s a quiet revolution. With warmth, humor, and unflinching honesty, it shines a light on female sexuality, aging, body image, and the rarely discussed truth: most women have never been taught how to truly experience pleasure.Thompson herself recently pointed out that science has almost entirely ignored female pleasure. She…and the evidence backs her up. The anatomical structure linked to the G-spot was only officially described in 2012. Female ejaculation is still dismissed by many doctors as “incontinence.” Centuries of medical research prioritized male anatomy, leaving women to figure out their own desire in the dark.In the film, Nancy—a widowed retired teacher—hires a sex worker (the charming Leo Grande) because she realizes she has never had an orgasm and no longer wants to die without knowing what pleasure feels like. Her journey is awkward, funny, tender, and profoundly relatable. It mirrors the stories I hear every week from clients: women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond who are finally ready to reclaim the pleasure that was never theirs to begin with.So many of us carry the same quiet “shoulds”:“I should feel more sexual.”
“I should love my body by now.”
“I should be having orgasms (or at least know what I like).”But pleasure isn’t a performance. It’s a return home.Your body is not broken. It’s waiting.
Those thousands of nerve endings didn’t disappear just because life, motherhood, grief, or shame told you to ignore them. They’re still there—ready to light up the moment you turn your attention, your breath, and your curiosity back toward sensation.Good Luck to You, Leo Grande ends with Nancy standing naked in front of a mirror, looking at herself—really looking—for the first time, and smiling. “I haven’t felt this alive for ages,” she says.If that line stirs something in you, trust it.
The desire to feel alive in your own skin is not frivolous. It’s sacred.You don’t have to suppress it anymore.
And you don’t have to navigate the journey alone.Here’s to choosing aliveness—messy, joyful, unapologetic aliveness.(If this resonates and you’re ready to explore your own pleasure with kindness and support, my practice is a judgment-free space for exactly that. You deserve to come home to your body.)
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